I feel the urge to write and get my feelings and thoughts out and down onto paper, er… screen. And I suppose that I feel like I’m finally in a place where my experiences can also be useful to other people. This isn’t because everything is roses and rainbows, but because I am very secure in myself… most of the time, and my insecurities are the type that need a good long workout, not just a quick jog around the block.
The next couple of posts will be a current status, and a catch-up history of the past year or so since I last blogged.
Anyone out there reading please let me know what you’d like to see here besides my own random thoughts – movie reviews? books? news stories? I don’t really know what I want to make out of this thing here yet.
I’m going to try to sticky this for a bit to keep it at the top of things for feedback purposes, when I actually have some readers!
Yeah, that’s right, I’m bringing it back.
“Couples may get health benefits simply from sleeping in the same bed, a burgeoning field of study is showing. In fact, some scientists believe that sleeping with a partner may be a major reason why people with close relationships tend to be in better health and live longer.”
Apologies for my absence from the blog. Life has been crazy. Expect to see posts about how crazy it’s been. In the meantime, I’ve been sitting on this post for a while because I wanted to fine tune it. If you think it’s not fine tuned, just assume it’s because I’m a crappy writer. Much ❤ ~PG
So I wrote about pansexuality here. If you haven’t read it, please go do now. (I mean you can lie and stay here if you want, but I’ll be really disappointed in you…)
So I was linked to this article discussing pansexuality and I felt like it was a really good attempt to explain the concept but it got very confused when it introduced and compared polyamory along with bi/poly/pansexuality. Polyamory is not a sexual orientation. You can argue whether it is a relationship orientation or a way of life or just something some people do, but it’s not about who one is oriented to sexually, but the number of partners one is willing to accept.
Note: This post has been in the queue for a few weeks. I’m hoping to be a bit better at typing by tomorrow after having my fingers squished in a car window. I have a really cool post about sexual orientation/identity coming up that I’m hoping for a lot of feedback on, so please share and respond!
So when’s the last time you got tested for STIs? One of the best and/or worst things about being non-monogamous is that you’re a lot more aware of your risk for a sexually transmitted infection. (Oh yes, I’m being pretentious and using the proper term. )
On one hand, it’s a pain in the ass. The health department was efficient, if not truly quick, but I’ve never had a doctor completely ignore me and talk about her shoulder surgery to the nurse while shoving a speculum up my hoo-ha. Believe me, I’ll be seeing my family doc from here on out. I had to go over my lunch due to their STI clinic hours, and calling back for results was inconvenient as hell.
On the other hand though, I am STI free and can prove it. Despite primarily having protected sex for the past year, this only lowers my risk, not removes it. And getting to a point in a relationship where condoms are not necessary is a good thing for me! But I’m responsible not only for my sexual health, but also my partners’ health and their partners’ health. My irresponsibility can affect them, and vice-versa, so it’s good non-monogamy to be tested on a regular basis. Kind of like getting a period even when you know you’ve used birth control, it’s that reassurance that I haven’t screwed anything up.
I don’t know any of my mono friends who get tested at all – at least no one’s told me!- but if anyone out there has experience to the contrary, let me know.
So I have several posts coming up but suffered a few injured fingers. It was a sacrifice to the power window gods of Will’s car. So more later, my apologies.
Not that I actually have a mailbox full of questions, but instead I’m going to use this post for you to send me your questions.
What questions do you have about polyamory, pansexuality or … well generally geekiness? What topics interest you? Are you looking for advice?
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More to come for the weekend, everyone. But please send me your feedback!
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